Communicating With Men: Why 'Touchy-Feely' Is Unmanly
We've debated the merits of sex on a first datebut let's take it back a step to a more PG level. Remember back in the day when I contemplated why guys in Ohio never tried to kiss me on a first date after I was used to every guy in New York City attempting to stick their tongue down my throat after a few drinks? Well, now that I'm back on the Dating touchy feely guy York dating scene, it appears I'm back in touchy-feely land, but my opinion on it might have done a I went on a date recently with a very nice guy, but there was no romantic spark on my end.
Nonetheless, I like meeting new people and he was interesting and fun, so I had a nice time vienna dating kasey out for a few drinks and a quick meal. Overall, it was a good night except for one thing: It drove me crazy that he kept attempting to make physical contact with me! Not in a gross or pushy or overtly sexual way. Just in a way that indicated he'd possibly read some dating advice that said the way to establish rapport is to have lots of bodily contact.
He'd gently touch my wrist while complimenting my bracelet, or lightly lay a hand on my back as we walked. I pulled away each time, but it still ended in an incredibly awkward goodbye that I'm pretty sure dating touchy feely guy an attempted kiss. I couldn't verify as I was busy doing a quick swoop-and-dash move to escape.
Another night this dating touchy feely guy, I also found myself chatting with some random guys at an ocean-front bar, and at one point tipsily blurting out "Oh, I don't like to be touched" after one of them lightly rested a hand on my shoulder. Um, was that rude? I kind of didn't care, I was just over it! Ironically, one of my biggest issues with being single for the last two years is that I crave physical contact.
Not sex but just the comfort of having someone rub my shoulders when I'm tense or to curl up next to me during The Daily Show. But at least right now, I can't bear to be touched by a guy I barely know. I think I used to be more open to physical contact as a method of flirtation, but I'm in a pretty guarded place right now when it comes to dating generally. Plus, I haven't felt particularly attracted to any guys I've met lately I think my libido is dead; we'll discuss that another timeand I'm on edge because I know there are terrible advice books out there advising guys to be way too physically aggressive with women as a method of "picking them up.
Seriously dating touchy feely guy, this is why that stuff doesn't work! At worst, it's assaultbut even at best, it will probably still make dating touchy feely guy uncomfortable. So that's how I feel, but do you guys feel the same? Or am I just turning into an old prude? What's your response to PG touching on a first date?
Does it just depend on whether you're feeling into the guy or not? If you're not, how do you let him know so he doesn't try to kiss you but you don't seem like a presumptuous jerk? Asking for myself, obvs. How NOT to Handle That Awkward Moment When the Check Arrives on a Date. Are You Literally Giving a Red Light in Online Dating Confessing Your Crush on a Friend…More Than a Decade Later?
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