Dear Gefilte: My Jewish Daughter Is Dating a Catholic Boy. Help.
DOMINICK COPPOLA, 22, a real estate salesman from Brooklyn, is looking for a confident, intelligent and open-minded woman who shares his love of walks in the park, sushi and home cooking. He had some luck meeting women through Internet dating sites like AmericanSingles. Then he found what he now considers an online gold mine -- Rating, a Web site that bills itself as "the largest Jewish singles network. Although he is Catholic by birth and upbringing, Mr.
Coppola has long preferred to date Jewish women. I thought I'd go with the odds. Coppola is one of a growing number of gentiles who have lately signed on to JDate, which was established in as a service for bringing Jews together. The number of non-Jews on the site is difficult to estimate: But interviews with people who use JDate suggest that gentiles have become an increasingly visible presence in recent years full disclosure: The reasons non-Jews seek Jewish mates vary in their particulars, but generally seem to come down to the old idea of the nice Jewish boy or girl.
Agnes Mercado, a Catholic administrative assistant from West Hollywood, had never even met a Jew until she immigrated from the Philippines 15 years ago. But in October, a little over a year after the death of her Gil boyfriend of 13 years, she placed an ad on JDate that read, wellington gay dating am a gentile looking for my mensch, are you out there?
I want to be your shiksa and your partner for life. Mercado, 40, said that her late boyfriend had been "a kind soul" and that she believes his Jewish upbringing gave him a good character. She has just started seeing a year-old Jewish man she met through the site, and is willing to convert if things get serious. Another non-Jewish JDate member, Mark who insisted that his last name not be used, to protect his privacywas at first reluctant to join the site.
A year-old professional sports coach from Wayne, N. Krissy Non jew dating jewish girl, 31, a self-described lapsed Catholic and a chef in Encino, Calif. After she was contacted by several interesting men on the site, though, she extended her membership. She does worry though that pressure on some Jewish men to marry within their faith means that she's "O.
That is the central theme of "Jewtopia," the comedy that opened off Broadway in October, which non jew dating jewish girl both Jewish anxiety about intermarriage and the romantic desire of non-Jews for Jews. The play is advertised as "the story of a gentile who wants to meet a Jewish girl so he'll never have to make another decision.
To some Jews, of course, the issue of intermarriage is not at all funny. The most recent data available, from the National Jewish Population Survey ofshow that 47 percent of Jews jewiah married after chose a non-Jewish jsw, an increase of 13 percent from If the trend continues unabated, some fear, it could lead to the end of the American Jewish community. Sarna, the author of "American Judaism: A History" Yale University Press, and a professor of the subject at Brandeis University, argues that while gentiles who marry Jews may non jew dating jewish girl Jewish traditions and pass them on to their children, such commitment is unlikely to last more than a generation in a mixed family.
Given those concerns, some JDate members are less than thrilled about non jew dating jewish girl on the site. Jill Flegenheimer, a year-old computer consultant from Livingston, N. I have Jewish kids. I don't see a future. David Siminoff, the chief executive of JDate's Los Angeles-based parent company MatchNet, defends the site's unrestrictive policy. He said the company considering adding a "willing to convert" option in the religion category.
Coppola, the datinng estate salesman, no no one has ever admonished him for being on a site created to encourage Jewsh to meet and marry other Jews. Still, he does not advertise his background in his written profile. Because he is not Jewish, he lets women contact him. Coppola concedes that he does sometimes wonder if he is trying to become a member of a club that does not want him. Tell us non jew dating jewish girl you think.
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